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What’s your mom’s? By the wonderful Grace Farris.
P.S. The new vocabulary and ways to unwind.
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“Life is sad without tomatoes”, my mum always says, and she’s so right!
My mom always says, “you are fully empowered”. This touches just about everything in life– you are empowered to choose how you feel, how your react, how you treat others. It also means taking responsibility for your actions and life choices. Sometimes I feel frustrated when I come to her feeling down because someone said something that hurt my feelings, or I want to whine about my day, and she responds with this instead of sympathy. But I know she’s preparing me to stand on my own two feet and live my life to the fullest.
A happy belated Mother’s Day to all the moms and mother figures out there!
My mom always advices me to go back to bed whenever I plan to watch movie at late night even she wants me to wake earlier but I start sleeping at 3.am bt I love her n want her to do all this always as this all shows her care ….
Oh I loved this!! Especially that I didn’t like The Goldfinch :-) Now I feel much better about not finishing it. I felt kind of a pressure, as its famous and won prizes … but it just didn’t work for me.
I didn’t care for it, either!
Always and forever, whenever I found myself spiraling into anxiety late at night, my mom would advise me to go to bed. “Everything looks better in the morning with a good night’s sleep,” she’d say. And she’s right! Now I find myself advising the same thing to my husband, my sister…and my mom still reminds me of this whenever I call in a panic.
My mom’s advice: never leave the house without lipstick.
Her quick go-to look was–and still is–bright coral lipstick and big black movie star sunglasses.
“It’ll look brighter in the morning.”
This is STILL the truest mom phrase. No matter how bad of a day it is or what terrible thing happened, my mom has assured me without fail that it will be just a little better the next morning. And she’s always right.
The goldfinch is also the book I could not finish.
My mom often said, “Your ship will come in someday”…and various variations of it…she was right!
My grandmother shared her fix it when she was feeling depressed….go buy a new bra! Keep in mind, she was born in 1913 and dies when she was 94!
My wonderful mum has never ever left us without a properly made up bed. It was the one thing she always did before she left me or my brother at university; whenever we move into a new house now, my mum always makes sure we have a properly made bed with clean sheets before she goes. It’s such a wonderful thing to sink into at the end of a long day and the clean smell of freshly laundered sheets at that time always feels like a big reassuring hug from my mum.
Mine always said, “take a shower and then see if you feel better.” She was so right.
My mom’s two most important pieces of advice are:
“you have to flip your own switch” –meaning, only you can make you happy again. It might sound frustrating, but now I realize how much power it gave me to control my own feelings.
When I faced a decision where I didn’t know what to do: “There’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ decisions. Just decisions and consequences. You won’t know if it’s bad or good for a long while.” I can’t tell you how helpful this advice has been in my life, how it helped me make decisions instead of just waiting for life to happen to me or agonizing over every choice. Having the perspective of time makes me realize how wise her advice is. A decision which seems wrong now can be the best one you ever make.
Tawnya, I just wanted to thank you for posting this. I have a hard relationship with my mom, who’s a narcissist and hardwired me to feel constantly guilty and responsible for the feelings and experiences of those around me. I’m only now figuring out how to deal with this, and that it will be a lifelong process for me. This mother’s day I thought of your mom’s words many times and they were very comforting.
I grew up in an Asian household and my mother taught me that trick of measuring your rice water with the tip of your finger. Most Asian families do this – I live alone now and this has been my default rice-cooking technique for my entire life. Only at 21 did I learn the use of the rice measuring cup. Who needs it?
The most sacred of my mother’s advice is the ways she taught me to be resourceful.
“I’m not letting you out of this car until you yell f%@k really loudly. Here, I’ll demonstrate. F%@K!!!”
For context:
My mom drove me to high school most mornings as it was on the way to her office. One morning, I was recounting a recent experience in which I’d felt really uncomfortable due to the way a creepy guy had been looking at me in public. I was already running late for school and vividly remember that anxious feeling of wanting to get out of the car and run to class. But she refused to let me go until I’d screamed f%@k at the top of my lungs.
(She was also the type of mother to chastise us with, “language!” if my brother or I swore, making this experience all the more memorable!)
I love this! I’m about to head off to a shift at my restaurant, and I’m not terribly thrilled at the prospect. I’m going to consider your mum’s advice before I exit the car. :p
You never know how long you have –
My mom started saying this and explained this to me when I was a toddler and she said she told me she loved me so often because if she never came back she’d want me to know it, as we never know how long we have.
I think about this every day, especially now that I have little people of my own.
Love my Marmie ❤️
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