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Who Someone Really Is
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Hang wallpaper together! That’s the test of fire.
And isn’t the truth that we all have some “who someone really is” of our own…? Even though we might treat the waiter well, we absolutely love our parents, totally cool with dial up internet, love kids and puppies…but handle other things pretty badly. The real real is how we behave when we don’t get our way. When plans fall through, when you get fired, when you get betrayed by a friend, when your spouse cheats, when your plane gets grounded for hours and you have to wait and wait, when someone else gets favored over you but you deserve that promotion… or… what about the rude waiter, the parents who abandoned and abused you as a kid, what if you don’t love dogs but love monkeys…
There are a myriad of situations and stories as to who someone really is…
And yes, the breakup! THAT will speak volumes.
Oh, also, this reminds me of the Nora Ephron quote that my mom often repeats: “never marry a man you wouldn’t want to be divorced from.”
Go for a run or work out with them! I dated a guy who treated service people like gold, had the utmost respect for women, traveled with patience and joy, but man, on a run, he was a competitive, critical, boastful, never shut up, and never slowed his pace a few steps for me.
try canoeing together!!!
Haha! That was one of the things that impressed my then new boyfriend/ now husband. We went canoeing on one of the relatively flat easy rivers around here, and about twenty feet from the takeout we flipped! He grabbed the boat and our supplies, and I went swimming to catch my floating shoes. He was expecting some anger, maybe tears, definitely blame… I couldn’t stop laughing! It was funny! And a little water never hurt anyone. That ability to take (literal) upsets in stride was the first sign to him that maybe I was special.
Looked at the tests and felt I could pass without all of me coming through. me. Later I failed a test that showed my less attractive side. My partner disagreed with me, in so many words told me I was wrong . I did not keep my cool, got loud and could have handled the criticism in a calmer, cooler way.
I know this probably isn’t very romantic, but get in a fight, and see how it resolves…
My sister is seriously mentally handicapped and every year she spends 4 or 5 days with me and my husband at our home. His ease with her and the way he treats her just reinforces my decision to be with him.
Also, we take her to parties with our friends–all older people who don’t know any truly handicapped people–and they are amazing with her. And THAT reinforces out decision to live in our community.
Aside from my sister, I think the way people treat those in a service profession is the most telling, especially waitpeople. Years ago I finally had to tell my best friend that I couldn’t go out to eat with her anymore until she became aware of her behavior toward the waiters. Slightly not her fault, as she basically inherited the behavior from her mother, but in the end it was a good thing, as she changed her behavior. Part of it is about whether or not a person has had to work in a service job in their lives, but mostly it’s about empathy.
ha, aint that the truth!!! or take them to ikea!! http://thewanderlusthasgotme.blogspot.co.uk/2016/08/swingers-crazy-golf.html
This is so cute.
But maybe we should do every single one of them to find out who someone truly is. ;)
xx Ana http://www.disasterdiary.de
The ultimate way to tell who a person really is…honest to goodness, TRAVEL WITH THEM, ideally on a plane. You’ll finish the trip coming to the conclusion that the person is either brilliant or an idiot. Promise.
So true, I think its so rude when people aren’t friendly to waitresses
xo
This is so true!!!! Especially waiters and store clerks (which I think someone else mentioned).
So on point!
I had only known my husband a few days when I found out who he really was. We were hanging out at his apartment with a friend of his. His friend went to the bathroom and a long time passed. When he finally opened the door, the toilet was overflowing! My husband remained calm, was kind to his friend, and quickly took care of a pretty horrifyingly awkward situation with remarkable ease. I fell in love that night. Yes, over a clogged toilet.
Haha! This is hilarious. And kind of gross :).
Best anecdote ever!! This made me smile so much :)
hahaha me too, so funny.
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